Welcome to Men’s Healthy Sexuality
You are worthy of a healthy and free life.
No matter what your destructive sexual behaviors, your faith walk, or your church attendance, we are excited you are seeking freedom and choosing hope.
We are a combination of experienced leaders, new guys just figuring it out, and everything in between, dedicated to living healthy lives free of compulsive sexual behaviors and their impacts.
Many of our guys choose to donate as a way of gratitude. If that is you, click the button below. Otherwise, READ MORE!
Join us. It does not matter where you live. You are here for a reason. Begin the journey to becoming a better man.
What Men’s Healthy Sexuality is about:
We are a group of men who have chosen to bond together to live connected, live sober and live free.
We live free, free of fear, beyond just being sober, free of compulsions, free of secrets, free of shame, because we are free to share our needs and to belong. We have learned we cannot do this alone. We tried …. repeatedly. It didn’t work.
We hold weekly open group meetings. You can attend as many as you wish, just show up at:
- Faith Bible, 8130 E Kemper Rd, Cincinnati, OH 45249, Mondays, 7:00pm-8:30pm
- Vineyard Cincinnati, 11340 Century Cir E, Springdale, OH 45246, Mondays, 7:00pm-8:30pm
- Parkside Christian, 6986 Salem Rd, Cincinnati, OH 45230, Wednesdays, 7:00pm-8:30pm
- CCT Corporate Office 3509 S Dixie Dr, Dayton, OH 45439 Wednesdays, 6:00pm-7:30pm
- Crossroads Oakley, 3500 Madison Rd, Cincinnati, OH 45209, Wednesdays, Room KC215 , 7:00pm-8:30pm
- Christ Fellowship of Little Miami, 172 U.S. 22 & 3, Maineville, OH 45039, Saturdays, 12:00pm-1:30pm
**There is also a Monday night Zoom option, please email menshealthysexuality@gmail.com for details.**
Come. You know there is more life for you!
We periodically have Closed Groups, a group of set attendance, that deepens recovery: Our next Closed Group will be a shorter version starting May 29 and last until August 14 at Crossroads Oakley, 3500 Madison Rd, Cincinnati, Ohio 45209. Just come May 29 to join. After that, our next closed group starts September 25, 2024. Just come either September 25, October 2 or 9 to try it out.
If you want more information on Men’s Healthy Sexuality please email menshealthysexuality@gmail.com.
Our group for partners of men who struggle with unwanted sexual behaviors is called Transforming Betrayal. For more information, please visit their website at transformingbetrayal.com or email: transformingbetrayal@gmail.com.
TESTIMONIALS
“I have tried SA, Men’s Accountability, AA, but it was MHS that showed me how to live.” P.S.
“I had been working recovery for 20 years in all sorts of ways, and MHS was the most powerful path for me to break out of despair. I am excited to do more in MHS!” S.T.
“If someone told me as I was seriously thinking of driving my car into a tree to end my life, that 2 years later I would be married, sober, employed in a job I love, and in a group with the best friends I have ever had, I would have responded that’s crazy! So here I am crazily grateful for MHS.” B.A.
“MHS has provided me the avenue to not be isolated and instead connect. To mentor and be mentored. I see MHS as the most honest, kick-ass, hardcore men’s group you would ever want to be a part of. All other church men’s groups pale in comparison, wishing only to find something as rich and freeing to your soul as MHS. MHS is manly. MHS is brave. MHS is what God wants!” A.F.
“My story is rife with rejection, loss, obsession, pain, deceit, brokenness, attempts to break free, and stumbles back into relapse. I was abused in foster care as a young toddler in about every way imaginable. As a result, I was a violent, rage-filled, fearful, unconfident, and desperate young man. I developed early hyper-sexualized coping mechanisms to deal with the incredible amount of pain, shame, and rejection I lived with.
I gave my life to Christ as a teen, went to Bible College, married the love of my life in my early 20s, and thought like any good Christian kid would, that getting married will take care of my masturbation, fantasy, porn, and other lustful proclivities. You know where I’m going…
I sunk deep into porn with the advent of the internet in the late 90s, this went from soft porn here and there to sneaking and binging several hours and times per day. I was arrested for solicitation and my face wound up on the news, as a result my life, marriage, family, ministry, and reputation were in shambles. But that wasn’t enough. I kept barely eeking by and tried myriad groups, counselors, prayers, ministries, and other white-knuckling attempts to break free. Nothing else worked for very long. It all scratched the surface, but none of it got to the toxic core of my pain, shame, and rejection. The acting out was only the tip of the iceberg of infection and brokenness that resided deep underneath inside of my soul and fueled all of my crazy and deceptive behaviors. I needed something more, something real, something deeper, something lasting.
In 2015 I was fired from a church in part for acting on one of their devices, my marriage and family were on the ropes and I was shamed into joining a MHS Closed Group by an old, now deceased friend. Everything started to change for me then.
I began deep and intense counseling simultaneously while jumping into MHS. I began not knowing how I could do it all but then as I got further into knowing God’s heart for me, knowing myself; the good, pure, honestly, worthy, wanted, chosen, and precious version of myself that Jesus saw and died for, I began to break free from the life-long spin cycle I’d been trapped in. My life, heart, mind, marriage, relationships, outlook, faith, and even my personality began to change. I had friends for the first time that I could be both transparent and vulnerable with. I found a sacred community where I could grow, change, and heal at a clip that seemed more in line with what God had planned for my life all along. After nine years now I can’t imagine my life without MHS.” S.R.
My life would be radically different without MHS. I might not still be married, and I would have a very different relationship with my children.
Coming to MHS was out of desperation. I had tried everything else that I could to try to stop my addiction to pornography and sexualizing everything. My addiction went back to when I was 11 years old, when I was shown material. Nearly 30 years later, I needed to come to MHS for the first time. Once I arrived, I knew that I had found people who could help and could show me a path that could lead toward healing.
In MHS, I found a skilled community which was welcoming, kind, accepting, and real. I started in the Open Group, and then God provided a Closed Group that was starting the next month. And I jumped into that Closed Group. Over the next two years, with that group of guys, I brought my pain and my trauma to light and to air. I shared things with the guys in my group that I never intended to share with anyone. I found community and healing, guys who were beside me in the battle.
In the group, I learned to journal, how to meditate, how to be kind to myself, how to forgive, how to clear my side of the street, and so much more. I was hoping for some help in stopping certain behaviors, and I ended up being in a group that helped me find the root causes for my actions.
I’ve been through several Closed Groups now, and my learning continues. Nearly all of my closest friends are in MHS. With some guys I talk monthly, some weekly, and some daily. We are travelers on the journey of recovery together, and that’s something I never expected to be blessed with. I couldn’t imagine my life without MHS, and God continues to give a ROI many times more than the time and energy that I’ve invested. H.J.
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